Advice: Universities
All of my friends are getting into amazing universities, american and the like, while I’m getting rejection after rejection.I know I should just be happy for them, but all I can feel is jealousy and self loathing. I feel like crying even as I’m writing this. What’s wrong with me? How do I stop this? Help. -FeelingDepressed
Hey there,
Though you may not notice it, these feelings that you are getting are also experienced by everyone else, all the time. For example, I’m sure many students feel jealous of another student’s perfect score on a test, and then lose self-confidence because of it. There is nothing wrong with that, and there is nothing wrong with you! Being jealous of your friend’s achievements is only natural, and the important part is how you choose to deal with it.
In the end, you will have to accept that each person has their strengths and weaknesses, and everyone will have their own opportunity to shine. Be happy for the achievements of others, and they will be there to congratulate you as well in the future. Admitting your jealousy is already a big step towards making peace with yourself, and is a reaction that is much better than hate or anger. Take some time to think about your own strengths, and remember that you don’t have to compare yourself to others. There will always be people that are better than you in one way or another, so instead you should compare yourself to how you were in the past. If you’re improving, that’s all that matters.
Finally, remember that jealousy isn’t always a bad thing. It creates some healthy competition that will motivate you to work harder and become the better person you wish to be. No matter which university you end up at, if you work hard and believe in yourself you will be able to achieve your own goals. Cheer up, your moment of glory will come eventually.
